I firmly think that it is ultimately up to you to lead a happier and more optimistic life. What changes or actions can you take to feel better about yourself? It gives me great pleasure to share 15 of the numerous ways you can live a more cheerful life. In order for you to live a more positive life, I sincerely hope you find these useful and put some, if not all, of them into practice.
Let's clear this negativity-filled cloud and fill our lives with sunshine. Our relationships, children, and ourselves all require it. Even if we may experience horrible days occasionally, the day itself may still have had some positive aspects. Pay attention to the little things in life and what you might do differently to make yourself happier. Focus on the good things in your life rather than the terrible and negative things. Never forget that if you allow it, negativity will always lead to more negativity, and positivity will always lead to more positivity.
I do my best to work and implement these 15 simple ways to live a more positive life everyday, not all at once or all in one day. Sometimes I do get bad days where things don’t work out the way I want them to. Sometimes I’m too tired or just don’t have that positive attitude and that’s okay because not everyday will be perfect. The point and our main focus is to have more positive and happy days than negative ones. We can do this!
1. Surround yourself with positive people
Try your best to let go of negative people in your life who do not want to see you succeed or be happy. Who do not motivate you to go out there and make your dreams come true. Reach out to your friends and family who are always there to listen to you and not judge you, who will give you their honest opinion and who will push you to achieve your goals. Stay connected to those positive people in your life who you feel content, yourself and secure with. This will help you live a more positive life.
Negative people will always want others around them to be negative as well. You are better than this and the moment that you realize that these kind of people do not deserve your love and time. You will be better off and will start living a more positive life.
2. Hold on tight to your faith
For me personally having faith has helped me have a more fulfilling and positive life. It gives me strength and motivation and I love it. Hold on tight to your faith because it will keep you humble, blessed and happy!
3. Have a hobby
I truly believe that you need a hobby, a distraction of your everyday life. You need to do something that makes you happy and that doesn’t feel like work and that doesn’t give you stress. Having a hobby will help you feel you, specially for us moms. We nurture our family, we give, we worry, and we spend the whole day making sure everyone is happy that we at times forget about ourselves. Having a hobby will make you feel happy and I think is healthy to have something that is for you and only you.
A hobby can mean so many things, like having a blog, joining a gym, joining a cooking class, taking photography lessons and the list can go on and on. You get where I’m going with this 🙂
4. Spend more time with your family
Spending time with the people that you love will always put a smile on your face. Your family inspires you to work harder everyday to give them a better future, your family inspires you to never give up on your goals and dreams, no matter how big it may seem. Your children will always inspire you to be a better person, to live a more positive life because you want them to live a more positive life themselves. Your family is already helping you live that life.
5. Focus on what makes you happy
Try your best to always focus on what makes you happy. Focus less on the negativity and focus more on the positivity things. If you can’t get a recipe right the first time, don’t say that you’re never going to learn how to cook but instead say that you will not give up until you get the recipe right. Have a positive mindset and you will achieve more things than you might think.
6. Read motivational books
I truly love reading motivational books because it makes me happy, simple as that. I love books that helps me have a positive mindset and truly inspires me to be the best person that I can be.
7. Yell less
Oh yelling, don’t all moms do this? yes, we do and maybe we will never stop completely but we can definitely limit the amount that we yell. Just find ways that will help you stop yelling and focus on what works for you. Limiting the amount of yelling will open a window of positivity because you will refocus your energy on finding ways to fix the issue. When I yell at my kids, my day becomes longer, I get more inpatient and I’m not happy at all. This is negative energy and we do not want this. Yell less and be more positive.
8. Don’t compare yourself to others
This one is a biggie isn’t it? I know I have struggled with this before and I am happy to say that I am getting better at just focusing on me. It feels liberating and I now live a more positive life because of it. This is no joke, STOP right now, stop comparing yourself to others, to your co-worker, other moms, your cousin, whoever it is that you’re comparing yourself to. STOP right now! It is not healthy, it will break you down and you will never feel enough, complete or happy.
Instead
Work on yourself, find ways that will help you stop this vicious cycle and just do your best to only focus on you. On your life, know that you are doing a great job, you will get where you want to be and you will be just fine. Not everyone will have the same success, the same house, the same career and you know what it’s okay. As long as you are happy, you feel accomplished, you’re working on achieving your goals, you are doing things for you and your family. You will be okay!
The minute you stop comparing yourself to others, that’s the minute you will start living a more positive and meaningful life.
9. Have more patience
Oh patience, how hard it is to have you sometimes. I know, I am working on this everyday because I know having patience is such a great trait to have. Being patient helps you not be cranky, mad, upset or even anxious. It’s unbelievable in what mood you are in when you don’t have patience. Try your best everyday to work on your level of patience and start living a more positive life.
10. Laugh more
Laughing is so important to do because if you don’t smile or laugh, you will not feel or be happy. You will not feel like you’re having a good and positive day. Laughing makes everything better and will definitely help you towards achieving a more positive life.
Taking sometime to play with your kids can help tremendously. You don’t always need to play with them, you can simply have a conversation with them and believe me you will find yourself smiling!
11. Listen to inspirational podcasts
I’m new at this whole podcast thing but I can’t wait to find a few good and inspirational podcasts that I can relax and listen to. I love the idea of listening to someone speak because it feels like you are right next to them , you know? so I recommend listening to positive, uplifting podcast and join the club.
If you recommend any, please let me know!
12. Give back
You can give back in so many ways and you will feel amazing. Living a more positive life is not only about you but about helping and uplifting others in the process.
For example:
The clothes that doesn’t fit my kids anymore is given away to family members that need it or we donate it. There are so many people that are less fortunate than us and we need to help them.
13. Help others
Is there anything more rewarding than giving back and helping others? It automatically help you live a more positive life and fill your heart with love. Help others in any way that you can and you will not regret it.
You can help others by listening, giving advice on something, helping someone with a recipe and the list can go on. Helping others does not necessarily have to be something big it can be the smallest thing and people will still appreciate it!
Simply ask someone “Do you need help”, it can make a difference
14. Don’t let the sad news you read and see on T.V consume you
I do not have cable in my house but I do have internet. I for some reason get sucked into reading all of these horrible and sad news that really take a toll on me. Specially news about abusive parents, it just get me so worked up, you know? It’s bad and we both should stop it or at least limit it. I for once will try to stop reading these kind of news because it gives me anxiety and I can’t deal with it.
Instead of reading sad, horrible news, focus on reading positive and uplifting ones. Read and watch something that will make you laugh, that will inspire you and that will leave you with positive and happy thoughts!
15. Take things with a grain of salt
Try your best not to make something small, bigger than what it is. Relax, take it easy and focus on something else that is worth your time.
For example:
You child spills something by mistake on your new rug, you obviously get mad and start yelling at your child. Yes, these things happen but sometimes is best to just say ” it’s okay but please don’t let it happen again”. Than to be angry, to start yelling and be miserable the whole day. Just take it with a grain of salt and move on happily.
I hope you have found these 15 simple ways to live a more positive life, helpful and useful. We can all live a more happy and positive life if we make a few changes in the way we do things. This world needs more positivity, our children need to grow up seeing it and living it and it all starts with us!
